Another Funeral was taken completely out of my hands: the family concerned brought in a priest from outside to preside at the Funeral; contacted the local Council themselves to arrange the grave; informed the Funeral Director not to pay me a fee as they would see me privately; brought in their own musicians, contacted our parish flower ladies privately and even indicated where the flower pedestals were to be placed on the sanctuary. (They even decided how many candles would be used on the altar at their last family funeral). All this despite the fact that we have a booklet in our parish hall (which people must pass through to come into Church); a copy of which was given to the family. I post a copy of our booklet here for your perusal. It arose because it became easier when visiting the bereaved to prepare them for arranging the liturgy if they were aware of all this beforehand.
I should note that when people still request CD’s I gently say “Just as you don’t have hymns in the Club after the funeral, so we don’t have songs in the Church during the funeral’. Only rarely (once, as related above) has the logic of this not been seen and agreed to.