Tuesday, 29 April 2014
A Catholic SSA Person
Following posts with speak about homosexuality I inevitably get comments and emails from all kinds of people; be they active homosexuals; homosexuals who are not active for reasons of Faith, and people who have not been able to make the distinction the Church makes between the person and the homosexual acts they feel attracted to engage in (it is only the acts which are wrong; the Church recognises that it is quite possible to love someone deeply and have a solid friendship with them without sex entering into the relationship, be you homosexual or heterosexual).
I received an email recently that speaks about the struggle to remain celibate as a homosexual Catholic, and I have permission to share with my readers (I am withholding the name of the writer for reasons of privacy). It serves a reminder to heterosexuals not to think that all homosexuals are engaging in disordered acts and disregard the Faith; it also serves a reminder to homosexuals not to claim they are judged and rejected as people because of their homosexual desires...thank you to the writer for allowing me to share it.
When I first became aware that I was attracted to other women I thought I wouldn't be able to attend church; believed that I wouldn't even be welcome in a Catholic church and scared that I couldn't receive the sacraments. I spoke with the priest in my local parish church and I was reassured that the loving itself was not wrong it, was physically acting on the feeling would be the sin, just as it would be with heterosexual couples if they had physical relations outside marriage.
There are things I do to try and make it easier(!) to avoid temptation:
Avoid conversations that potentially raise the subject of sex
Sleep in separate rooms if my friend is in my home, or separate beds if we are elsewhere
Limiting physical contact to a hug
Not watching film/TV where there is graphic sex as that encourages sexual thoughts
Avoid reading literature which describes sexual acts and have courage to stop reading it
To attend Mass together (she is also Catholic though she only attends when I'm with her)
Go to Mass and Confession as often as possible to receive the graces which come from them
Pray to the Holy Spirit that He might help us both to stay strong.
These are some of the things I feel help me keep me in touch with my faith (though I struggle every day). They may be helpful to your readers.
Thank you for sending me this, and thank you for allowing me to share it with readers. I assure you that any comments which come in that fail to show you respect will not be published.