tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post6040356414120056533..comments2023-10-05T10:29:39.439+01:00Comments on Catholic Collar And Tie: End of Life Issues - A Personal DilemmaAndrewhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09049074568745678686noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-89189838794656685082012-11-09T16:24:36.648+00:002012-11-09T16:24:36.648+00:00Tim,
Many thanks for your comment.
End of life ...Tim,<br /><br />Many thanks for your comment. <br /><br />End of life issues are always difficult; they can call-up not only the love shared but the difficulties encountered. I suspect that, while you say you were not your father's favorite, the reality was that you just disagreed on things; it seems clear from his hug that the love was always there. Love doesn't mean agreeing on things; it is deeper than that.<br /> <br />God bless you and yours.Fr Dicksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702725497183621855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-67850891835251138542012-11-08T21:28:38.697+00:002012-11-08T21:28:38.697+00:00I wept while reading your post. I lost my father t...I wept while reading your post. I lost my father to cancer 2 years ago, so I'm sure I can relate the pain your family is going through. Yeah, we have had those discussions too and made to sign papers for the doctors to follow when his time comes. It was 6:45am when I lost him with 5 nurses, 1 doctor, me, my mom and a helper accompany him. It was the first time I witnessed death and it's as painful as hell. I'm not my father's favorite and we argue with all sorts of things but it was me he hugged before he passed away. Tim Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02291524581748830014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-70564233307963731892012-09-03T14:25:03.233+01:002012-09-03T14:25:03.233+01:00Thank you for your comment. I do hope that it wil...Thank you for your comment. I do hope that it will be of use to others, particularly in helping families look at these issues before the stress of a loved ones immanent death.Fr Dicksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702725497183621855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-54953425043299957862012-09-03T14:23:09.500+01:002012-09-03T14:23:09.500+01:00Thank you for your comment on this post and on the...Thank you for your comment on this post and on the Blog in general. We aim to inform by our sharing and hope to inspire.Fr Dicksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702725497183621855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-49706863165023873212012-09-03T14:20:52.785+01:002012-09-03T14:20:52.785+01:00Thank you for the comment and prayers.Thank you for the comment and prayers.Fr Dicksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702725497183621855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-7671283124809620512012-09-03T14:20:32.268+01:002012-09-03T14:20:32.268+01:00Thank you for your comment. You have obviously ha...Thank you for your comment. You have obviously had your own troubles to overcome; thank you for responding to ours.Fr Dicksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702725497183621855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-82757844332370065792012-09-03T14:19:24.438+01:002012-09-03T14:19:24.438+01:00Thank you for this reply. I too am looking for a w...Thank you for this reply. I too am looking for a way around this dilemma of fluid being 'treatment'. Since fluid is a basic human need for survival, I would consider any refusal to administer fluids a case of death by deliberate intent. Depriving someone of fluids goes beyond negligence to actively procuring death, which I feel sure is not how the medical profession desires to be seen in that its mandate is healing, and if Doctors heal by killing there is an implicit, perhaps even explicit declaration, that they are not only unable to fulfill their purpose but deliberately acting contrary to it.Fr Dicksonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11702725497183621855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-31786069451313407342012-09-02T19:13:13.809+01:002012-09-02T19:13:13.809+01:00This is very good indeed, and I am going to print ...This is very good indeed, and I am going to print it and keep it. My aged mother-in-law is perfectly compos mentis and remains in her own home, but is frail, and at her age one never knows what the future may bring, or when.<br /><br />As I understand it, the law in England allows patients or their representatives to refuse any particular treatment, but not to insist upon receiving it. The doctors have the final say in deciding whether to withhold a treatment. And in England (I don’t know about other places) nutrition and hydration are, I think, classed as treatment. <br /><br />I have been trying to think of a way of getting round this by expressing it in terms of refusing rather than insisting. The only thing I have come up with so far is “Not to administer any treatment which renders the patient incapable of indicating that he or she desires food or liquid”. This concern may not arise in the event, and it is very much a hypothetical thing for my husband and me, but it is sensible to be prepared. We all have the fear of a patient being “made comfortable” to an extent that sometimes seems rather over-zealous.<br /><br />It is all shifting sand, isn’t it, in the advanced stages of a loved one’s illness? You have made a really good contribution to the exchange of ideas. May God bless you and your mother, who is obviously in the best of hands with her loving family.<br />Dorothy Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00858061638961520926noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-68350826629102826572012-09-01T23:57:30.898+01:002012-09-01T23:57:30.898+01:00Father this is a very moving post. It also gives m...Father this is a very moving post. It also gives me a lot to think about with my own parents as both my brothers are lapsed Catholics and my sister is a weekend catholic. I thank you for this post, keep up the good work with your blog it is truly educational and very inspirational. I will pray for you, your family and especially for your mam. God BlessSally Annenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-27009611521404616482012-09-01T23:23:25.879+01:002012-09-01T23:23:25.879+01:00Prayers promised for your mother and all the famil...Prayers promised for your mother and all the familyHoly Family Guildhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12452911116023277078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-77505554317376891962012-08-31T19:30:27.780+01:002012-08-31T19:30:27.780+01:00Father Gary, our hearts go out to you. As you know...Father Gary, our hearts go out to you. As you know we both had to face losing a wife/husband in our lives, mine very quickly, Theresa's over a much longer period. Whilst I had no control whatever over Margaret's death (it happened so quickly) Theresa had to watch her husband deteriorate over a much longer period. In many ways your Mum doesn't really understand what is going on so it must be infinitely more difficult for you & your siblings to cope.<br />Our prayers are with you & you will all be remembered in our Mass tomorrow at your Mum's parish church.David O'Neillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04023042558615821880noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-641832955811669058.post-9408459497411661392012-08-31T13:07:54.369+01:002012-08-31T13:07:54.369+01:00Father, what a courageous post. Thank you for th...Father, what a courageous post. Thank you for that, but also for the detail it contains, which will be of enormous use to many. Trisagionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15689037119871067090noreply@blogger.com